5 things not to say to someone who has cancer.
WARNING… RANT ALERT!
My friend has cancer.
Cancer, as you know, sucks.
I have watched and listened to things people say as they find out.
The following list is of things people have said.
If you find yourself in their shoes, please do not say the following.
Note that this is an actual list and each item has been said not by one person but by multiple people.
1. Hey “slick” you had such a nice head of hair! Why did you cut it like that?????
If someone becomes bald overnight, it might be safe to assume something is going on. Cancer is sadly so prevalent that when a person you have not seen in a long time is hairless, consider the possibility that they may be having chemotherapy. Use your head before commenting on theirs.
2. Oh no! My cousin had that kind of cancer and died within six months!
This is the one that I find really hard to take.
As a rule, when you find out that someone has gotten bad news, don’t follow it up with a horror story.
3. Try ____________________, it’s an absolute miracle cure!
No it isn’t… and that includes: fish oil, reiki, bee pollen, vitamins, chiropractic care and about a dozen other items that have been offered as easy answers. Certainly cancer can be treated holistically, but there is no easy out, fast track or guaranteed solution.
4. Is it terminal?
If it is, they will let you know if they choose to. If it isn’t there is no reason to replant that already planted thought in their head.
5. Did you _______________________?
Smoke? Lay out in the sun? Eat aspartame? Eat MSG? The question you’re asking is really “Is there a way to blame yourself for this?”
So what should you say?
The truth is you don’t have to say anything.
You could simply listen.
If you want to say something then“I love you and I hope your treatment goes great!” could be all you need to say.
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