You know what to do but you ...

How many times have you said or thought

“I know what to do, but I don’t do it”

Without going too far with the following notion, I do believe we program ourselves with our words.

It seems to me that the more we say things like that, the more likely we are to manifest them.

We know we impact the people in our lives with our words but what about the things we say to ourselves or about ourselves?

Most of the time we don’t even notice we are doing it.

Self talk has a profound impact on our lives.

In the name of intentional transformation, I’d like to offer a replacement for the previous phrase.

From now on we are eliminating “I know what to do, but I don’t do it” with:

“I do, what I know will work”

In your profession…

“I do, what I know will work”

In your relationships…

“I do, what I know will work”

In your passionate pursuit…

“I do, what I know will work”

If this phrase is connectingright now, know that it also works as a question.

“Will this work?”

Sometimes just that pause, that extra couple of seconds is all it takes to not repeat choices that have clearly not worked in the past.

Take this as a little tip.

Hope you get big results!

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Two words that change everything...

I’ve started this post three times.

The core has been in place for a month but the framework has not felt right.

Originally it was about how to deal with kids when they are selfish and entitled.

That didn’t work because I’m forty four and I still behave that way.

Then I thought I would frame the point in the context of the habitually needy.

Those who seem to take and take and take, while rarely giving.

That didn’t work because I still have relationships in which I take wayyy more than I contribute, only to complain when I’m not getting what I hoped for.

Either way the fingers that were pointing back at me were too apparent to apply this to anyone but all of us.

Our relationships will never reach their full potential until we are at least as concerned with what we want “for" people as we are with what we want or need “from" them.

From and for are two tiny words that when applied in this context have the potential to shift perspective and create balance.

What are your needs, wants, hopes and longings?

Apart from your faith, where are they met on a human level?

Who do you turn to?

I’m asking you to think selfishly just for a moment.

Who do you rely on and what do you want / need “from" them?

Now the shift.

Consider those individuals and ask yourself the question “what do I want for them?”.

Apart from your understanding of their expressed longings and desires, deep in your heart what do you want for them and how could you do a better job of providing.

Keep in mind that in order to get this right, what we want for others needs to first consider what they want for themselves.

Right now you’re thinking about your loved ones.

Some of you are thinking about how you’ve been let down or disappointed.

Imagine a world in which we inertially hoped for the good of those who have failed us?

And then there is our own failing.

Those times where we have drained a person and then made them feel bad when they didn’t have anything else to give.

There’s power in moving from a perspective of what you haven’t gotten into what you have to give.

It can be applied everywhere.

What do you want for the person waiting on you in the diner?

What do you want for your boss who drives you crazy?

What do you want for that friend you fell out with?

For and from…

For and from…

For and from…

Teach it to your kids…

Model it to the world…

And be nice to yourself when you forget...

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